Monday, February 15, 2016

Toxic Relationships

I know this blog is all about beauty, but from time to time I will talk about life topics. It is fun to play around with makeup, but the best beauty comes from the happiness within. No amount of makeup can cover up an unhappy spirit. With that being said, every Monday I will try to post a topic on my blog that will encourage you guys. If you guys have any topics that you want me touch on let me know J




You ever have that one friend that when you see them coming you want to just run away? It’s not that you don’t love or care about them it’s just sometimes they can be too much? I have found that most of the time I only deal with negative, draining people because of loyalty. I say things to myself like “man, we have been through so much” or “I have to be there for them because they were there for me”; none of these things are true by the way.  As I get older I realize that I am guilty of being too loyal sometimes. I do things that I am not comfortable with because of my loyalty, and rather it is a lover or a friend I do this. One thing I know now is that when any relationship no longer holds value to you it’s already gone. Once you feel its OK to not answer their phones call or you have negative thoughts about the person, the relationship is gone. We have to know when to let go.  Life isn’t always about meeting people who are going to stay around forever. I had a hard time learning that, and honestly I still struggle with it today. I have a problem with letting go of things. Rather it is a relationship or an eyeshadow palette that I had for years, I just hold on to things. I speak from personal experience when I say holding on to things that no longer serve you good purpose only hurts YOU in the end and causes unnecessary issues in your life. Your happiness and peace of mind should never be up for grabs. Today I encourage everyone to walk away from any relationship that is draining the life out of you or making you feel any type of way but happy and positive.

Stay blessed J
Xoxo

Danni 

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  1. Great this really opened my eyes, there is some spring cleaning in my life I must get to

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  4. Nice insight and decent resolution, just be careful on who you let go because some of those people you people might be trying to get your attention to show how much they love and/or care about you and then you'll miss on what God had planned for you, is it hard...yes, does it get easy....depending on your outlook on things. I've been down that road and it sucks, but incredibly worth it. So be very mindful on who you let go because that person who speaks negative but is trying to stand out to get your attention, and that might be the person who truly loves you.

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    1. I agree. Very true statement. I also feel that if God sent that person to me it shouldn't drain me or bring confusion that disturbs my state of mind. If there is something I am meant to help change then I believe God will show me that even if I want to walk away or not.

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    2. Or it could test you incase you decide to take things to another level and it teach and train your mind to be ready so you'll be ready for anything likewise.

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    3. Including your body and soul.

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    4. This how most relationships and marriages fail in today's world. Both parties are expecting it to be a smooth breeze, but there will always be test along the way to test your love with each otherand this will only make you and you spouse/bf/gf stronger with each other, now if you or other half is truly negative about every situation instead of working together and making it work then your union will fail. If the both of you can get past though those trials that has been placed in front of you both together...then you two have truly been made for each other.

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    5. Sorry I get extremely carried on subjects like these.

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    6. Sorry I get extremely carried on subjects like these.

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    7. I see where you are coming from. I do think that if you are truly made for someone then you will want to work hard to keep the relationship. In my post I am referring to any relationship that is so draining you cannot seem to function. I believe there is a far difference between making something work and letting the situation drain the life out of you to the point you are stressed and not happy. No relationship is easy, but in my opinion if its so bad to the point where you feel stressed and overwhelmed then it may be time to evaluate the relationship. A relationship is not healthy if you have to compromise your sanity to be with a person.

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